Gay for Dummies?

Almost all behaviors we have are learned... this makes it difficult if you are gay to learn how to have a normal, healthy relationship. Relationships are about a number of things... about common interests, companionship, love, sex, building a family and a place in the community.

Today there are some examples of “normal” gay relationships some healthy... some not. It is critical for proper development for young gay people see these relationships so they have blueprint. We like to think we know it all...about relationships and about sex... but these things are learned. It is also critical that they are seen in a positive light.

I remember one professor giving the example of a couple having trouble conceiving. When the doctor explored the situation with the couple, he found that the man was trying to penetrate his wife's navel.

Now.. with todays availability of explicit depictions of sex that may not be a problem. But it suggests another problem. Young people see the mechanical act of sex but do not see relationship attached to the act. ( I am not thinking of about casual sex here. )

The same professor made it clear that you cannot have neutral attitudes about things such as masturbation: YOU have to be positive about it...